This past week has been busy and I didn’t spend as much time writing as I would have liked. For some bloggers, this wouldn’t be a problem, but I can feel my perfectionist tendencies kicking in. A pesky voice inside my head tries to convince me that each post needs to be better than the last. So today, I am working to redefine my definition of blogging success.
The Blogging Chatterbox
I can’t pinpoint when it happened, but somewhere on my blogging journey I convinced myself that success is a straight line that steadily moves upward. In other words, with each blog post:
- My writing needs to improve.
- The number of readers must grow.
- More readers need to actively engage in the discussion.
Of course, thinking like this is stressful, and takes the fun out of writing.
I once saw a picture on Facebook with the caption,”What success really looks like.” Blow, the tile was a squiggle line with an arrow that moved all over the place. The line went up, then down, did a couple of loops, and regressed. Nevertheless, on this chaotic journey, there was a gradual increase in progress. The growth was lost and regained many times. Yet, ultimately it led to success. This is what real life is like.
Redefining Blogging Success
Here are four ways that I’m redefining my definition of blogging success.
1) Blogging success is investing in the bigger picture.
Bill Gates said, “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” Striving to accomplish too much too fast, is a good way to get discouraged. It’s also a recipe for burnout. Small investments, that make our blogs better ten years from now, are a success.
- A short blog post is a success.
- A small update is a success.
- A new connection is a success.
- Learning something new is a success.
2) Blogging success is doing the work.
Two years ago, I attended a Mary Kay webinar with Jenny. Sean Smith, the teaching coach, said a phrase that stuck with me. I don’t remember the exact wording, but the gist of his statement went like this, “Focus on doing the work, and you’ll get there when you get there.” Instead of asking “Am I growing fast enough?” it’s better to ask, “Am I doing the types of things successful bloggers do?” If the answer is “yes,” then take a deep breath and relax–you had a blogging success! We don’t have to arrive tomorrow.
3) Blogging success is reaching one person.
This is perhaps the most important definition of success. Jesus said, “If you give even a cup of cold water to one of the least of my followers, you will surely be rewarded.” If your writing is a refreshing glass of water, to one person, then you have succeeded.
4) Blogging success is enjoying the journey.
In college, a professor often said, “Trust the process.” There was something about the tone of his voice, and the compassionate understanding, that communicated, “Relax, enjoy the journey, and allow the process of growth to take place over time.”
Addison is approaching her second birthday. Watching her develop reminds that that with growth comes growing pain and clumsiness. If your blogging journey involves messiness, steps backwards, and the occasional nose-dive, then congratulations, you are normal!
Today I am shushing that pesky chatterbox that tries to convince me that success is a straight line. I’m reminding myself that
What’s your definition of blogging success? Do you have days when you find yourself frustrated, trying to make each post better than the last? If so, how do you silence the negative self-talk, and enjoy the journey? I’m excited to hear from you, and look forward to continuing the discussion in the comments below!
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